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Dad, donor, man that took part in my creation, or whatever it is that I am supposed to call you: I used to laugh at the stories that said things like, “it’s totally possible to find your biological parents these days due to how extremely capable the internet has become,” that is, until tonight. I now am that person, sitting here telling my story all because of Google. I used to type in all of the personal information that was provided by the California Cryobank on my father into Google, all of the details poured out from underneath my fingertips…

I’m not sure if you’re truly donor conceived or not. Although I do understand that there are parents of donor conceived offspring who write with a similar flavor to the offensive entry you have entered to this web page. So let me start by saying, hello, how are you? Why are you angry? If your life is so perfect why do you feel the need to come to this page to begin with? I’m conflicted. Why are the emotions of other offspring of assisted reproductive technology a insult to your family? My personal thoughts certainly do not have any ill…

There just aren’t nearly as many offspring created through the use of donor eggs as donor sperm, and the technology is much, much more recent. I wouldn’t put a different “voice” to those kids other than the usual individual perspective. Why do you think it would be different? If you take out the population of children whose parents lied about that key fact of their existence, what it adds up to is just lack of numbers. Based on all of the research that the Donor Sibling Registry has completed, there’s no reason to think there’d be any difference. A lot…

I was born in Texas. I was my birthmother’s 8th child. She gave away 4 and kept 4. I was part of the 4 that were given up. I was adopted right from birth. My mom has a brain tumor at the age of 16 and they had to remove her pituitary gland. She is blind in her right eye and has no peripheral vision. After her surgery, the doctors told her that she could not have kids. That’s all my mom wanted was kids. She told me that she told God that she’d dedicate her life to children. My…

I wanted to respond to your post about being scared as a new mom with a donor baby. I am a mom with a baby from an egg donor. I had similar fears. Some fears I had when I became pregnant: I wanted a girl and ended up having a baby boy. I was worried my baby would have the egg donor’s eye color (the donor’s eye color is different from my husband and myself). Sure enough, my son has the egg donor’s eye color. I was worried my negative, judgement in laws would judge me even more and be…

I am 28 weeks pregnant with a donor baby. It’s been a long journey to get here and I can’t quite believe that this pregnancy may actually come to fruition. However, I do have a few concerns. I am worried that I won’t be able to bond with my baby girl. I am worried that my family will not treat her like one of their own. I am worried that she will look nothing like either myself or my husband but will have inherited only her genetic mother’s looks. I am worried about the day I will tell my little…

I stumbled upon this site while researching the subject of gay marraige as there is a referendum on the issue where I am from. I have never read such raw emotional stories on an issue that had never come onto my radar before. I realise now how fortunate I am to know all about my family (not all good!) and never thought how it might be for those who do not. The pain I can see expressed here is heartrending and I feel great compassion for the contributors. I am somewhat ashamed that at an age over 50 I have…

My mom told me in a Mexican restaurant when I was 18. The whole time she was apologizing for what she was about to say to me and I honestly thought she was going to tell me that she had cancer or something. Once she turned that down, I began to play a guessing game, asking anything that came to mind. I hated surprises and the fact that she was nervous made me nervous, so I just needed to guess what it was while also attempting to lighten the mood. Through my guessing game, I playfully asked “am I adopted”…

I just stumbled upon this site and I wanted to reassure people struggling that it’s not all bad once you learn to understand your origins there are many things to be grateful for. I found out my parents used a sperm donor when I was 18 as my dad had chemo and couldn’t have kids. I was shocked due to not knowing my medical history but then I realised I was living under the assumption of her cancer all along (all his family have I’ve lost aunts, grandparents and a little cousin) and realised that I’m going to get a…

My father is an anonymous sperm donor, and of that I am aware, but what I don’t know if I am aware of are MY rights. It’s kind of mind-blowing to think that some man who got payed to donate his sperm can turn me down when I am 18. The California Cryobank states, “Upon reaching the age of eighteen, any CCB child has the right to request additional information about his/her genetic father. Cryobank will make all reasonable efforts to supply that information either from our records or by attempting to contact the donor on the child’s behalf.” So…

I don’t care about the genetic makeup of me. All that matters is that someone loves me. I get so angry when I hear stories about other donor conceived people who think that there is any importance to the chemistry that makes them them. Other than medical information, maybe. But do a genetic test, it would tell you more than anyone else could tell you. Anyone who says this is indirectly insulting me and my family. Anyone who says that genetic fathers or mothers matter are offensive. How dare you. Just be grateful for your life and stop hurting other…

Ever since I can remember I’ve known that my twin and I were IVF. My mum gave birth to us, but both my parents had problems with fertility, so turned to treatments. I have never felt that they weren’t by real parents; they’ve raised me, loved me, taught me, and been overall amazing. I don’t even particularly want to know who the donors were. My only wish is that I could know my genetic family’s medical history. With the links between the ‘cancer gene’, especially in breast cancer, I find it quite concerning that I can never know if I…