RESPONDING TO “Hard decision from an infertile couple”

Consider use of an open donor and be sure to tell your potential child from the start where they come from, and how they have every right to know who the donor is once they reach 18. I know this is not your ideal situation, but being a donor conceived offspring myself, I know how much pain just knowing who my donor is would take away. It stings sometimes no matter what to feel out of place, but you are loving this child no matter whose genetic material they obtain. I think that you should go through with an open donor and not conceal this from your child as they grow and discover that they came from this industry. Knowing I was derived out of a science as opposed to an act of love is not the ideal way to grow up, but I know for a fact that if I were able to have a relationship with the donor at hand, then I wouldn’t have felt this way from the start. Please consider open donation.