Re: “I Am Not Your Father”

I’m not the respondent you were you replying to, but I am a child of donor conception, outraged by your brazen insensitivity.

If your genetic profile matches my paternity, then yes you are my father. That’s how it works, pal. I’m sorry you didn’t learn that in biology class 101, but whoever provided the sperm to create the child, is the child’s biological father. It is not a matter of trading, giving away, or signing over paternal responsibilities in exchange of money. This is nature.

Take responsibility for the mess you’ve put your biological children through instead of facing their reality like a coward. You cannot pick and choose which of your biological children you want to keep and which ones you want to give away. We are all your offspring, wether you raised us or not, wether we were conceived with your wife during sex or by a stranger who put your semen inside of her, in a lab.

We are all your decedents, we are all whole siblings and half siblings with each other because of you. We are all the products of your procreation with another woman. The fact that you ignore the reality of nature and biology is just beyond me.

I pray to god when your biological children come to you, desiring to want the father-child relationship you deprived them of and gave to the biological children you personally wanted instead, you could mature and give them what they need. Your children aren’t donations and charity offerings to make complete strangers you’ve never met, happy. They are not puppies you can give away, who will completely adjust and do whatever their new owners say. They’re people. People who desperately need the man who created them to tell them that he loves them as much as he loves the biological children he decided to keep. People who have to wake up to the reality of paternal abandonment and genetic bewilderment, everyday because of your ‘generous’ choices.

Goodbye, and I hope to God that you are not the man who fathered me. I really, really, really, hope that you aren’t.