Anonymous embryos waiting (are they really?)

My third try on embryo adoption has just failed..I started googling the subject a bit more and found this site.And -still devastated as I was because of my inability to get pregnant – I kind of stopped in my frantic search for answers why it actually failed and started to see another perspective. Well, it was supposed to be an ideal of two worlds: give birth to your adopted kid plus you never need to go through the complex procedures or bother about any biological parents in the background as they didn’t care enough to let their genetic offspring know their names (out of neglect or fear rather?). And take all the “Snowflake programmes” and pro-life rethorics on “saving the souls on ice” – is it really about them? Will they be happy to be “saved”into a life where they have absolutely no clue who they really are? In the country where I live there is no chance to find open donors.The state is absolutely fine with the medical industry creating anonymous people – they should just be happy to be given a chance of life…How unfair is that? My (ex) doctor told me “you know, we all share the same genes after all”- really? Why did he ask me about the age my mother got her menopause or if anyone in my family had a diabetes? Again- would he ask the anonymous “saved embryo” person the same questions? How sickening are these double standards and – thanks to your site – I am done with the “saving” project.